Author: Agent Peggy Carter

Founder &Former Director of SHIELD. I know my value, anyone else's opinion doesn't really matter. WebGoddess of #HeroesResist with occasional assistance from A.P.R.I.L.

FEAR and #MeToo. Why we don’t speak up, why we need to.

“It was so long ago, why didn’t she speak up sooner?”

I’ve seen this question so many damn times in the last year over women coming forward with their #MeToo experiences. There are a LOT of reasons we don’t speak up. Many of them are grounded in one word. FEAR.
Because our attackers held power over us. Because they threatened our lives, or our reputations, or our careers. Because we were told, we wouldn’t be believed. Because growing up, we were taught that it was our fault, or that if we let anyone know what we suffered through we were now ‘damaged goods’. #FUCKThatShit

“I remember EVERY detail of MY attack, why doesn’t she remember HERS?”

Every person is different. Every attack is different. Everyone’s methods of coping are different. Some CAN’T HELP but remember EVERY detail. Some try their DAMNDEST to push as much of it down as possible and forget. That doesn’t make the memories any less painful OR credible. #WeBelieve
You never can forget ALL of it. The memories are always there on a shelf in a closet somewhere in the back of your mind. And sometimes things come along and rattle that shelf, knocking the box down, spilling it all out again. Sometimes it’s easier than others to pick up those shards of glass and pack them back away. Sometimes you’re left cut open again, bleeding in pain and anger for days, weeks even. Many of us went through the pain of remembering alone. #NotAnymore

“I still can’t talk about it.”

You don’t have to, just know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. More and more people are sharing their experiences with sexual abuse and assault. Some may never feel comfortable talking about it. Either way, YOU ARE A SURVIVOR. YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU REALIZE.

“I can’t keep quiet any longer.”

Then DON’T. I’ve seen so many people coming forward with their own #MeToo They’re painful to read. At the same time, they’re a reminder that there are people out there who have been through the same things, people who understand what we’ve been through because so have they. I’ve gathered a few experiences that people have shared with me, and am posting them with permission, though their identities are kept confidential. If you cannot read, STOP HERE.


TRIGGER WARNING: #MeToo Experiences

“I was 6, he was 15 or 16. The bus had assigned seats based on the route. He lived across the street from me, so we were seated together. He’d put his knees up on the back of the next seat& cover his lap with his coat. If I was wearing a dress, he’d make me do the same. Then he’d tell me to ‘pet the hampster’ under his coat. Mom couldn’t understand why I never wanted to wear any of the pretty dresses she made me. I couldn’t tell her, because he told me he’d sneak over in the night and kill us all if I told on him.”
FEAR. Her attacker was bigger and older than her. She felt he had power and she had none. She was afraid for her own life as well as those she cared about.
“I can’t remember if it was junior or senior year. I was in the music room after school, practising keyboard alone with the door open. A boy I knew, but not very well, from my grade came into the room. He shut the door behind him. I was known as shy, but he struck up a conversation about music. He flattered my playing, asked me to teach him. He stood behind me to one side, hand on my shoulder. Every time my hand moved in his direction on the keyboard, he’d lean his crotch toward it, trying to get me to touch him. His hand moved down from my shoulder to my side, groping my breast. I asked him to stop. He said he just wanted to teach me something in exchange for teaching him to play. I told him I’d scream. He laughed. The music teacher came down the hall, opened the door, saw us and scolded ME for shutting the door, ‘misuse of practice space’ and ‘inviting trouble’. After she left, he told me if I said anything, he’d tell everyone that I threw myself at him and was just making up stories because he turned me down. I quit music after that and avoided small rooms when possible. The thing I remember the most was the look in the teacher’s eyes. I was already judged.”
FEAR. An adult had already assumed her to be in the wrong. Her attacker threatened her reputation. It would be ‘he said/she said’, and she didn’t think anyone would believe her.
“The locker room wasn’t really for changing. It was just a place to keep our coats and bags while we were working. It wasn’t a big room, you could fit maybe five or six people in it. There was an older guy from one of the other shops in the complex. His wife worked in the same shop as I sometimes did. He’d make crude jokes at all the young girls, even in front of his wife. One day he cornered me in the locker room as I was trying to get my things and go home for the day. He blocked the door, telling me all about how his wife ‘didn’t do anything for him anymore’. He told me he wouldn’t let me leave unless I let him ‘see the goods’. I threatened to tell his wife. ‘So what? She already knows I’m a pig.’ I refused. He reached out and grabbed my arm. I kicked him in the shin, and he moved out of the way. I could hear him as I was bolting out the door. ‘Bitch! You’re no fun!’ I didn’t bother telling anyone, because his behaviour was well known throughout the complex, and nothing was ever done. Women who complained suddenly developed a paper trail of bogus infractions that led to termination.”
FEAR. She felt that reporting him would lead to losing her job, instead of the other way around.
“I remember too many details. It was the 5th of July, 1998. My husband and I had gone to the local park for the 4th of July weekend extravaganza. I don’t know if it was too much sun or a bad burger, but I wasn’t feeling well and made him take me home before the fireworks. A hot bath was interrupted by some groping and cajoling. ‘I know how I can make you feel better.’ When that didn’t work, he moved on to the guilt trip. ‘I’ll bet I feel worse than you do. My dick is so hard it hurts.’ I still turned him down, threw on a nightshirt and went to bed. He crawled into bed hours later, drunk. After more cajoling and arguing and finally threats of violence, he took what he wanted. I was so scared, I peed myself, but the asshole thought I was wet from excitement. Telling me over and over again that this is what I wanted. I could feel his hands groping and clawing all over me until he finished, leaving me curled up in a ball, sobbing. The next morning I got up for work and looked in the mirror. He came up behind me and said ‘There’s no marks. No one will believe you.’ After four years of marriage, he had me so gaslit, that I believed my own family like HIM better. That wasn’t even the worst experience, but it was the last. It still took a week and an intervention before I got free. Twenty years later though, I still remember too much.”
FEAR. He had her so broken down, that she feared no one would believe her.
We can no longer let victims suffer in silence. We can no longer let them live in fear. Whan we NEED to do? Listen to them. Believe them. Support them. Support change- in our behaviours, in our responses, in our society. Someday, I hope the time comes, when #MeToo is a moment in the history books. A movement of change. A movement we learn from. A hundred years from now, I hope people look back and say, ‘They were so strong and brave. Because they spoke out and said #MeToo, because they stood up and fought back, today we can say #NotMe.’


Writer’s Life: Rogue Characters and the Never Ending Argument

The Author shuffles in with her coffee, still yawning. She blinks the sleep from her eyes,  turning on the computer, cursing as she mistypes the password not once, but twice before accessing the current work in progress. Still blinking& yawning, she half mumbles aloud, as the characters assemble around the conference table in her mind.

Author: Ok kids, if I have to be up and working, so do all of you. Where did we leave off?

MC P: <eyeroll> We’re all still stuck in the bloody Tower, because YOU’RE so insistent on dragging me through the stupid ‘documentaries’. I’m tired of it. We should have been out in the field months and months ago, Having adventures, working for the Resistance. But noooo, you had to go and decide to use the movies as exposition. To show me what I missed and how other characters developed to the point they’re at. You could have easily thinned the whole thing down to ONE conversation.

Author: A simple conversation wouldn’t have run nearly as smooth, or had as deep an impact on you. Besides, readers LIKE experiencing the movies through your eyes. It’s a fresh take on them. 

MC P: <arms crossed, shrugging, shaking her head> I don’t care. I’m not doing it anymore. Find a way to fast forward to the action!

Author: <glaring at the petulant heroine> Fine Miss Know-it-all. <points at the white board with the rough outline for the next 60-80 sections of story> And how do you propose we cut 10-15 episodes of character interaction without weakening the framework we spent so long building? JUST so YOU can get back out in the field. Besides, what about the others? <looks around the table>

MC S: <shrugs> Don’t look at me, I’d like to get past all the moping and brooding. <looks at MC P next to him, smiles> I want our HEA.

Author: Oh come on now! You know I can’t just hand you a HEA. You two have to work for that. It’s not nearly as dramatic and entertaining. HEAs are a storykiller. Yes, happiness is important& necessary, but there has to be some bad with the good, to make the happy times all the more rewarding.

MC T: <raises hand> Um, hi. In case you forgot, I’m here too. That next documentary is one of mine, and I could use the ego boost. Not feelin much love in the last few episodes. 

Author: You’re a MC, you’ve been in PLENTY of episodes.

MC T: <hemming and hawing> Yeaaahhh, buuuttt….. <sighing sadly> You made everyone hate me.

Author: <feeling a touch of guilt> I didn’t MAKE them, it just kind of happened. I don’t like the animosity around here either, but that’s part of trying to rebuild what was broken. We’ll get there. <under her breath> I hope.

MC T: <points back at MC P> You let her hit me!

Author: <hands up defensively> I swear I didn’t know she was going to do that! In case you forgot, <points at him angrily> YOU never told me you were going to suit up and crash the stand off. So really, that’s your own damn fault!

MC T: <stutters and stammers> but, but I

Author: <holds up a finger, interrupting him> WHY are my glasses starting to fog up?!

<looks around the conference room, the rest of the characters keeping mum, over in a dark corner of the room, she sees MC P& MC S making out>

Author: GOD DAMN IT YOU TWO! Knock it off! You’re like a pair of unsupervised teenagers! We’re not even close to the steamy scenes yet. Can’t you both PLEASE behave? <both look up, blushing>

MC P: Fine. I’ve got an idea. I’ll sit through the rest of the documentaries, but YOU have to give us another flashback episode. From the war. Full of action and romance.

Author: <hanging her head, sighing, finally nods> IF, I said IF I can find a way to tie a flashback into what going on, I will. I promise. <rubs her temples, looking over the outline notes on the whiteboard>

MC N: <leans over to the others at the table, muttering> So they get all the attention again, while the rest of us are stuck in the back seat. <eyeroll>

Author: <over her shoulder> I HEARD that!

MC C: <shrugs his shoulders> I’m just glad to be here. I still can’t believe they left me out of the last movie.

Author: <turns around, still rubbing her temples> I’m going out for a smoke. Try to behave while I’m gone, all of you?

MC S: You ran out of them last night, go have a twizzler instead.

Author: <cursing, heading for the door> Fine, I’m going to the store. When I get back, WE’RE GETTING SOME GODDAMN WORK DONE!

MC P: <singsong nagging voice> Nasty habit my dear, you really should quit.

Author: Fuck off Peg. <slamming the door>

Peggy Carter, Agent of Resistance

Pt. 66 Returning to the Nest…..


Loc: Port Authority Bus Terminal, 9th Ave and W 41st St, New York, NY

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<a handful of passengers shuffle off a bus in the darkness, distancing themselves from one in particular, a slightly disheveled looking man in a fedora and shades, reeking of cheap cologne, snapping his gum loudly as he wrestles with a pair of carry on bags and a guitar case, the man walks off to an empty bench, setting the case down, looks casually around the station, pulling out his phone, dialing a number> Continue reading “Peggy Carter, Agent of Resistance”